Pre-marriage advice for a younger couple?

my boyfriend and i plan to get married after college before we go into the military together. we're both in ROTC, and plan to do joint domicile. we want to be together, and have decided that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. we have a wonderful, amazing, loving relationship.


we love each other so much, and realize that a young marriage can be difficult, especially paired with a stressful military lifestyle





my boyfriend and i were talking about our upcoming junior year in college, and he mentioned that he really wants to get closer, make our relationship stronger, and just become more emotionally prepared to start a marriage (you can tell how serious he takes this)





we go on a lot of dates, and share a lot of things together, but i was wondering if anyone has any advice to prepare for marriage, strengthen our relationship even more, or even advice for a younger couple starting out.





we basically just want to go into our marriage with a great foundation to build upon.


we really have made sure that we aren't floating in the clouds about marriage. we have discussed finances, where we want to live, job opportunities after the military, possible higher education, children...you name it, we've talked about it.


we love each other so much, and we want to be absolutely prepared for the complexities of marriage.





thank you all for you positive advice, and just take note that no, we are not too young to get married, yes we do have stable jobs and finances set up, yes we love each other, and that we recognize that marriage takes a lot of work and is not easy. all we want is some good advice before we take this huge step.





thank you all!Pre-marriage advice for a younger couple?
You sound like you love you partner very much and you both sound like you want your relationship/marriage to work, excellent. You also both want to try to build a solid relational foundation, even more excellent. This is my advice as a premarital counselor:





Continue building your relational foundation through several ways. Buy some books that will bring up many more questions that need to be discussed before marriage. There is a book called ';Before you say I do'; and it is excellent. Of course there are many others - http://www.connectioncare.com/resources/





I would also suggest premarital counseling. You could get that through a marriage and family counselor (look in the yellow pages or Google search that title) or you could probably get free counseling from a graduate school or church (if you are spiritual). A final option, there are many online relationship inventories/assessments/test that you can take and the results will help you to cover all the bases before marriage. These assessments are not overly expensive, cheaper than counseling and they do help - http://www.connectioncare.com/compatibil鈥?/a>





Keep talking and working. Good luck!Pre-marriage advice for a younger couple?
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