Don't blame her, she is just a fool in love. Only remember her when you SUE HIM IN COURT FOR ADULTERY. IT DOES NOT MATTER THAT YOU TWO MAY NOT BE LIVING TOGETHER...IT IS STILL GROUNDS. GET ALL THE FACTS AND PROOF YOU CAN. BILLS, PHONE RECORDS AND GET A GOOD LAWYER, NOT A CHEAP ONE.
HE WILL ASK FOR THINGS IN YOUR DIVORCE THAT YOU HAVE NEVER HEARD OF POSSIBLY. (MAKE SURE YOU HAVE HER NAME, ADDRESS IF POSSIBLE AND ANY OTHER INFO YOU CAN GET. DATE THEY STARTED DATING APPROX. Then the paper gets filed in court. A copy will be sent to your hubby. HE OR HIS LAWYER WILL HAVE TO FILE AN 'ANSWER'. IF YOU TWO CANNOT AGREE TO DIVORCE AND THE SEPARATION OF ASSETS/ALIMONY/CHILD SUPPORT...YOU WILL GET A HEARING DATE IN FRONT OF A JUDGE, WHO WILL LISTEN TO ALL THE EVIDENCE AND DECIDE WHO GETS WHAT AND WHO PAYS WHAT.
AFTER THAT, THE FINAL ABSOLUTE DIVORCE IS FILED IN PERMANENT COURT RECORDS AND YOU ARE MAILED A 'DECREE OF DIVORCE' IN THE MAIL.
GOOD LUCKI need legal advice for an action to take to end my marriage?
GOOD FOR YOU! REMEMBER: LOVE HAS TO DO WITH HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ';';YOURSELF';'; WHEN WITH SOMEONE......NOTHING AT ALL ABOUT HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT YOU.
SO, IF YOU DON'T FEEL WELL ABOUT YOURSELF WHEN WITH SOMEONE......MOVE ON!
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If you have your own money and do not need child support separate but do not file for a divorce. He will meet someone who will eventually want him to get a divorce and he can then pay for it. If you still have the phone bill and the evidence that he has cheated then get a lawyer and get whatever you can get. Don't listen to him or let him bluff you
The best thing to do is to contact a divorce lawyer who can help you retain financial control or obtain legal advice. I'm not a professional, but I suggest that if you feel that you are in danger, please be careful.
Best of luck.
Make copies of this bill so you will have proof to give to the lawyer. Follow him and take pictures, pictures!!! Go out of town and put recorders up in house to take pictures. Divorce is never easy it's dirty and nasty. Do not expect it to be easy specially if there is children involved. Get all the proof of adultery you can.
I am SO sorry for your situation right now. Please know that you deserve better than this. If he is becoming violent and throwing things, please get away if you can. You deserve so much more.
The best site I have found for information and for helping find a lawyer and for getting legal advice on divorce is:
www.totaldivorce.com
It has free articles about divorce costs, process, custody, etc, and has state-by-state information about divorce. It can also help you find a lawyer, I think.
Good luck, and just remember to keep telling yourself that you deserve so much more than this guy. Good luck.
He is trying to distract you from the REAL issue, and that is that he can not be trusted.
Do NOT direct any of this towards yourself. You are beautiful, you are a lovable person! He will realize this when it is too late.
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First, we must realize that Jehovah God is the creator of the human race and the Originator of the marital arrangement. Also, it is safe to say that since we are very limited as humans on all fronts, Jehovah knows better than any human what we need in order to have a successful marriage. The question is, will those who are married listen to the counsel found in God’s inspired Word the Bible and obey it instead of immediately ending the marriage once the couple encounters problems. All marriages WILL HAVE problems. It would be naïve for a couple to expect a life of bliss. 1 Corinthians 7:28 candidly states that husbands and wives would have “tribulation in their flesh.” Why? Simply put, because husbands and wives are imperfect, and we are living in “critical times hard to deal with.” Even a compatible, spiritually-minded couple will face occasional problems. Romans 3:23: “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Again, problems will indeed arise. The issue is how to resolve those issues. Some married couples have learned to handle problems rather than running from them because they view marriage as a sacred gift from Jehovah.
In fact, Jesus said regarding married couples: “What God has yoked together let no man put apart.” (Matthew 19:6). Granted, living by that standard is not always easy. For instance, relatives and others – including some marriage counselors – who do not recognize Bible principles often encourage couples to separate or divorce on unscriptural grounds.
Matthew 5:31, 32: “Moreover, it was said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ However, I (Jesus) say to you that everyone divorcing his wife, except on account of fornication, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 19:9, 10: “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery. The disciples said to him (Jesus), if such is the situation of a man with his wife, it is not advisable to marry.” In other words, if you were married and ended up getting a divorce because of something other than adultery and either one of you decide to marry someone else, you both would be committing adultery.
Matthew 19:18: “You must not commit adultery.” However, if either the husband or wife commits “fornication,” the innocent mate is permitted, not required, to divorce their mate.
Now back to your initial question: Under what conditions is divorce God’s will? Malachi 2:15, 16 says: “You people must guard yourselves respecting your spirit, and with the wife of your youth may no one deal treacherously. For he has hated a divorcing. Jehovah the God of Israel has said.” Yes, Jehovah God HATES a divorcing. Think about that word HATE for a second. What do you personally hate? Perhaps it is seafood because it makes you break out. Would it be your will to eat seafood? No. Similarly, is it Jehovah God’s will for married couples to divorce? No, because he HATES a divorcing.
What lines of evidence do we have? Malachi 2:16 says: “For he has hated a divorcing, Jehovah the God of Israel has said.” Matthew 19:6 says: “What God has yoked together, let no man put apart.” Yes, Jehovah God wants married couples to stay together forever. That was his initial plan with Adam and Eve, to live forever and to populate the earth with perfect traits like theirs. However, we know that not to be the case today, or else we would still be living in that paradise. Since Jehovah wants couples to hold to their vows, it is unthinkable to believe that divorcing is in any way God’s will. Again the question remains, will married couples listen to the counsel found in God’s Word the Bible and apply it?
Married couples will certainly benefit if they do. Jehovah stated to his ancient people (which couples can easily apply today): “O if only you would actually pay attention to my commandments! Then your peace would become just like a river and your righteousness like the waves of the sea.” (Isaiah 48:18) Adhering to the guidelines set out in the scriptures can bring success to a marriage.
Obtain an attourney as It dont look like you cant come to a peaseful seperation. The cost is more but you will get all the legal advise you need. As for him remarrying as soon as possible because he dont want to help you out well the courts will assist in how things will go and how long he will have to assist. Getting remarried will not relieve him of any order made. Is there children involved and such. Remember that all assetts and such need to be looked at and depending on the law you are entitled to at least 50 percent unless there was a prenuptial agreement made befor the marrage.
check in with an attourney
Hire a lawyer to protect your rights, tell you lawyer everything about him that you posted here. The lawyer will tell you what your rights are and what to expect.
Every divorce, even uncontested, is nasty. Try not to dwell on his infidelity and focus on reinventing yourself. Take this as a positive. A chance to, finally, make you happy. Get a lawyer and let him deal the legality and you find yourself.
Good Luck.
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