Advice for a sexless marriage?

My wife and I have been married for 4 years. We have a 2 1/2 year old son and she's not real excited about having another baby, but said she will if I want to. I have not pushed this issue.





She is on birth control (pill) but she just never seems to be in the mood for intimacy. What is going on? Is it me or is it her?





We were MUCH more sexually active before we were married than we are now. We haven't had sex in several months. Help!Advice for a sexless marriage?
Has she been acting funny latley? Anything fishy, like late working nights, etc. I'm not suggesting she is cheating but thats always one possibility. Otherwise maybe she is exhausted.. I mean I am 27 weeks pregnant with our first and I am exhausted already and dont know how I am going to chase after a little kid for the next 18 years of my life.. Try to talk to her and see if she is stressed. If she is take some tension off and try to ease some of what is making her stressed. Help around the house etc. If thats not it then I would definitley try to see whats up.. While you should never base a marriage on sex, intimacy is a very big part in a marriage.. Best of luck!Advice for a sexless marriage?
The Terrible 2 is very exhausting for mothers. I am referring to the age of your son.





It could be all the effort of caring for a 2 1/2 year old is wearing out on her. Most people try for another baby once the toddler is closer to 3 years of age and not by co-incidence - they normally become a lot easier to handle and being human we forget how much work babies are and then the cycle begins again. Children end up being the responsibility of the female (normally) and maybe you could care for your son more from dressing him in the morning to reading a story at night and see if her mood changes (this may take 10 days - it's not something that changes overnight)





Talk/ask her (directly) not us





GOOD LUCK you sound like a wonderful husband and father
you have to understand that every woman is different when they had a child and when they're using birth control pills it can change their mood or desire will change. sorry, that is one of the odd side effect from using the pills.





maybe you should help with your child and allow her to get out on a saturday to get her hair wash and cut while you watch your child. other words give her a break with your 2 1/2 year child. then do something nice and wonderful (make her feel sexy by drop a sexy comment here and there and not over do it) and don't push the sex issues maybe this will bring her around.
It may be the pills. The attraction we feel is due to our hormones and the difference in your mate %26amp; yours' genes, but when we're on BC pills (or actually ARE pregnant), our body changes what hormones are attractive to us and we only want similiar genes to ours. Therefore, the person we were once easily aroused by before, is not as arousing afterwards.


I'm on BC pills and sometimes it really is hard to get sexually aroused, and I am a very sexual person so it's kinda hard to believe.
sounds to me like she is ovewhelmed. She is not looking forward to another baby and not in the mood. sounds like she is afraid of getting pregnant and be even more overwhelmed. Ask a close friend or family member to babysit or have a sleepover so the two of u can have some alone time and spoil her . good luck
hmmm, since we are talking about your wife changing evaluate whether anything else has changed in the relationship? family members, job, finances, dates, childcare and etc? After such go to her and express your feelings. Remember women are superwomen in this day and age and if she is overwhelmed sex is the last thing on her mind. Talk with her...things will come around.
talk to her . is she taking her pills ? is she afraid of getting pregnant again? how is your relationship aside from sex? does she seem to be upset at you? what happened that all of a sudden she doesnt want to any more? i think there is something shes not telling you. hold her and let her explain what she is feeling.
I don't think there is a good excuse for her not to have sex with you. There is noooooooo waaaaaaaaaay she could be without sex for months.... i would understand a week or so, but months...... she has to miss you and if she is not feeling the need to be with you, somethingis wrong.
It is very possible it is the birth control. I would suggest having her talk to her doctor (if she wouldn't get offended by the suggestion';.





Good luck!
Get her immediately into the gynecologist to have her hormones and their balance checked. It is often the case they are off.
OK... you tell me when you find a cure. My Bf is the same althou diff situation - he didnt pop out ne kids and i think he would cry if he had to.






When you did? Were you both satisfied or lack of ?


that might be the answer.
Welcome to the club. What took you so long?!






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