Any advice for a loveless marriage?

i have been with my husband for 12 years. we seperated about 2 years ago for almost a year.i left him because he was having online affairs and became very possessive and abusive. we decided to try again, he promised that he would put me before himself (something he had not been doing) and seek help for his online ';addiction';. i got pregnant very soon after. we already have 2 children. 4 months into the pregnancy i discovered he was still communicating with the woman he was involved with while we were seperated and he sent her roses for valentines day. i was very upset, and left for a few nights. i told myself that we had 2 children already and one on the way and that i should go back and try to make it work for the kids. but since then i have been emotionless. i feel that he will never change and that our marriage is doomed to fail. he is still putting himself first. do you think that going through counseling again may work, should i stay for the kids, or is divorce the answer?Any advice for a loveless marriage?
you can try to convince him that he is not doing right with the help of some elders in your family or his or any senior your well know person but if still he do not stop then go for divorce because you will never feel secure from these type of irresponsible personsAny advice for a loveless marriage?
Life is too short to waste, if you feel that you have done everything to keep your marriage alive, and your man does not want you. leave him. But do not take the kids with you!, let your hubby have them, let him sit up with them when they are ill, you enjoy the freedom you gave up for him...
.. His personality is faulty, he won't change, ever. . Start a new life while you still can. 12 years? Don't waste any more of your time.
possessive/abusive and still dating dating others...you have to ask ?
just say bye bye bye its over so move on with ur life an getinto shape to catch another guy ok guys no like fat chicks so get into shape an do it again but leeve this guy asap.
let him catch you having sex with a young guy. just like hulk hogans wife duh its obvious
Divorce him...being emotionless will damage your soul and well being, you need to put yourself first on this one, youre pregnant, you need to FEEL LOVE and be HAPPY and feel JOY, knowing that this man sent another wh**e flowers would DISGUST me and make me feel so low on a daily basis if i were with him...you need to surround yourself with POSITIVE people, family,friends, and after you get back in shape and get yourself a new hair do and some hot new outfits, he'll be sorry...do whats best for your inner self, being sad and down reflects on the outside and your children see that...nobody deserves what he has done to you..if there is no love...he will never change
If i were in your place, I would find out who the woman is and give her a visit. Ask her if she is really so interested in my husband and then smile and walk away. Then i would visit her the next day with both the kids and tell her you get 2 kids free with my husband too. I would give her a fair choice, a husband and 2 kids to look after while i am getting ready for the 3rd which also joins the cool gang.





So, darling! My question to you is, will she accept your terms? If yes, divorce your husband and if not she will leave him automatically.





All the best .. works for many!


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The kids will not be happy if you are not happy. It is never healthy to stay for the kids.. take the advice of all the kids (including myself) who where raised with parents who didn't like each other.. it sucks, they see the unhappiness and the tears and the fights, and they will also learn from him, see the way u fight about other women.. kids have eagle eyes and sharp ears.. they see and hear everything. Do whats best for you and the children and leave him. You left before, he promised to change and didn't, so its not like you didn't try once already. You deserve to be happy and find someone who makes you happy... the kids need a happy mom too. GL
You should always try to work it out if you can, if just because of the kids. Get rid of the computer, or block whatever pages he is trying to access. Seek counseling (both of you). You are going to have trust issues with him for a long time, and he needs to confess that he's not earned trust and he's not entitled to it for a while.


Find a counselor that will help you and he develop the emphathy that's required for a marriage to work. Do a Google search for Imago, which is a counseling style designed to help couples communicate what they want and need from each other without promoting judgmental and defensive responses. It is possible to make it work, but it will be effort and both of you are required. If he won't participate, just leave.
I think I can help.





Ask yourself if you think it is okay for the kids to see their father emotionally abuse their mother and have affairs. If you want your kids to learn this behavior, then stay. If not, GET OUT NOW!





What about YOUR feelings? Dont YOU count? You are emotionless. You owe your first responsibility to YOURSELF believe it or not. If you aren't healthy, then your kids are not getting the best in life. Help them achieve this. Cure yourself by leaving.





The key to successful counseling is the willingness of the partners to change. You yourself answered that he won't, so get out honey. Spare yourself this agony.
You should definitely divorce that jerk. What kind of a father would he be any way? He seems like an unstable person, what if he abuses your kids? He probably won't stop his online relationships, so do you really want your children to grow up watching how he has affairs with other women? It all kind of depends on how much you rely on him, does he do work around the house, or help the kids? If you don't think you can handle it on your own then you should ask a close friend or family member to help out for a while.
Its called divorce just be sure to hide your assets and find all of his.......and as for the kids well i grew up in a family where me dad was abusive and promiscuos and my mom tryed to keep the marge together for me and my sis and just doesnt work. if you stay with him and you dont feel anything for him anymore.... over time you'll start to feel resentment and other bad feelings toward him and the kids are going to pick up on those feelings this will affect their feelings toward him and vise versa......its better to just break up if there's no love. just be sure to explain to the kids wats going on and that you both still love them very much