Marriage advice, is it too late for me?

My wife says she's fallen out of love with me, because i'm out defending my country (i'm deployed to a sh** hole in the middle east). In two weeks she says she's fallen out of love with me. One day she tells me she wants to work it out, other days she says no, she's flip flopping like crazy. I don't want to let go, and i dont want to pursue the marriage either. If me and her get divorced, we're both only 22, how many single women would want to date me? a divorced 22 year old. What should i do? Should i just tell her to leave, or wait till i come home and try to work it out? I'm not sure what to do, i'm scared of a divorce because i have been out of the playing field for so long, i'm scared to ask a woman out (i been married for 3 years now). I'm also scared that it is going to hurt us both financially getting divorced. What should i do? someone help? is it too late?Marriage advice, is it too late for me?
Don't worry about girls not dating you because you're a divorced 22 year old! My boyfriend is 21 and he's divorced AND has a kid. That didn't make me any less attracted to him. How do YOU feel about the situation? Don't worry about finances. Don't worry about playing the field. Are you in love with her? And by that I don't mean, do you love her? I mean, are you IN love with her? If she's doubting the marriage it may not last to be completely honest. It's terrible and I'm sorry for you but if she's done, the marriage is done. If you want to be married to her because you are in love with her, not because of fear of the single life or being in the hole financially, then I'd say try to work things out with her. But if those are the only things keeping YOU in the relationship, it's not worth it. I hope that helped!


Marriage advice, is it too late for me?
Your both very young. I would say wait till I get home to make a choice. Marriage is no joke. She shouldnt have married you if she didnt love you 100%.
The separation is hard on you both, and the reason you're there in the first place doesn't make it any easier... I would avoid putting more pressure on her right now, but I would also do my best to avoid making a big decision like this while in the middle of a sh-hole... Ask her to wait until you get home and then maybe focus on listening to her right now as she's clearly having some problems... Maybe ask her to help you understand how hard this is for her (even though it's probably harder on you) and just try to show her that she's not alone, that you realize that this is a sacrifice for her, and reassure her that when you get home, you can discuss whether a divorce is the right decision...





I know that's going to be very hard for you, but hoepfully no harder than what you're already going through...





And to answer your question about who would date a 22 year old divorced man, I can tell you as someone who was a 22 year old divorced woman that some people may look down on you for it, but there are many, many more who won't... Your being where you are %26amp; doing what you're doing is important and is a sign of your character %26amp; strength... Anyone who would misjudge you aren't people you'd want to date or marry anyway...












Well Let me just say thanks for fighting for my freedom i truly appreciate it.





You have to understand though your not at home with her like she wants/needs you to be and she just has alot of mixed emotions, she doesnt know if your comming home for sure or not and she doesnt know if she should try to work things out with you or not since your so far away. So when you talk to her remind her how much you love her instead of arguing over the phone it only leads up to worse things. Constantly let her know your thinking of her and dont let her get on your nerves to the extreme, but if all fails and a divorce is something that has to be done than maybe you should. As far as getting back into the dating life, being divorced should not stand in your way, You seem like a great guy your fighting for our country and any woman would love to have you.


Its not so much a divorced man that would bother so many women its the having children part may bother some young woman, your my age being divorced would not stand in the way. Hope this Helps....And thanks again for doing what your doing !!
If she is done with you after being gone for two weeks I would say it is over. She should not be dumping this on you while you are out there. Your life and possible other soldiers lives depend on your mind being on your job and not your marital problems. Yes single women date divorced men. It does not make your undesirable. It takes a special women to be a soldiers wife and yours does not have it in her. You will get the hang of the dating scene back. Good luck to you and thank you for serving your country.