Advice for Arab Muslim Girl ( about marriage and college)?

As a Muslim Arab 17 yr old, I've been thinking about marriage and college. I know everyone at this age thinks about these topics, but this is different for a Muslim. So basically, I'm at the age, when guys come to ask for my hand, which I think is ridiculous, because they don't know me. There aren't any restrictions as a Muslim, except I have to marry a fellow Muslim. However, my parents have their own restriction, which is I have to marry someone from my city, which in turn means I'm kind of related to whoever I marry. Plus, I don't even want to get married. If I did, I would be like my parents or any other married Arab couple, who hate each other. In all reality, I will be married to someone, who I won't carry about, eventually. Probably before I'm 23.


As for college, I'm screwed. My parents said I could go to a college, which is located about 20 minutes from my house in America. Now though, they are taking it back. They say I can only go to a college here in Palestine. A college that basically doesn't exist. I thought my older brothers would back me up and tell my parents to let me go, but no. I wasn't even asking to go to an expense college.


This is so melancholy.





So, I need advice from mainly Arab Muslim Women in my situation or who have dealt with this. What am I supposed to do?Advice for Arab Muslim Girl ( about marriage and college)?
honey there's no way in hell your going to find love in the Arab world your probably going to end up with a guy that you sorta know and have millions of kids...you should just face the truth. or just stay single and check out hot guys in the grocery store or something. as for college don't take SAT 2 and that's all ,or you can blackmail your bothers into talking to your parents for you. you seem like a smart girl. you have such a lovely vocabulary words like ';melancholy'; your English teacher must be proud.





Oh and if you do decide to get married i have a cousin. hes cute looking but he is hairy. but I'm sure you can get him to wax it or something.





As for the girl who's really pretty (Delicious) your a ******* idiot. I can't believe people like you actually exist in the world. Reread the question darling.





Good luck :)Advice for Arab Muslim Girl ( about marriage and college)?
Maybe you could get some statistics on how good the school in america is and how good the school there is, to help prove your point on why you want to go to the school in america.


and if you don't want to marry someone from your city, you could also tell them that racism is not allowed in islam, and it is encouraged to marry people outside of your family.


its going to be tough, but stick to what you think is right and inshallah, if its good for you, they will change their mind. i'm not arab, but i have a lot of arab friends (married to an arab too) so i know the pressure thats being put on you. inshallah it all works out for you.
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listen ,why not take ur mom aside and talk to her alone or one of ur brothers and convince them, then let them talk to ur dad





so do u want to live with us??





try to talk to ur parents again tell them that the education there is far better then in palestine,and that it wont coast them anything and that it will be close to home,with ur futur degree u could have a good job,more money,etc.....sorry can't find anything else to help
Delicious wow, just wow. Let me get this straight. Yourre saying that when guys ask for a girls hand in marraige it's only because she is ugly, stupid, and desperate. Your logic amazes me, NOT.





A guy asks for a girls hand in marraige because he respects her, he loves her, and to him shes beautiful. Who would want to live with someone they despise for the rest of there life.





I'm really pretty and im 17 too, i havent been asked for my hand in marraige either. But being pretty isnt an advantage because just because someone is pretty doesnt mean they get everything they want. I wish i was smarter than the way i looked. No one wants to talk to a girl whos to pretty.





Im sorry to hear that youre parents wont let you go to the college you want. I would talk to them. Face to face. Today i was scared to talk to my dad about somethinng but he took it waay better than i would have thought.





Good luck!
hi again i forgot to give some religious advice,





---u know u can do istikhara and if this thing is good to u then Allah(swt) will make it happen





this how we do istikhara


http://www.askimam.org/fatwa/fatwa.php?a鈥?/a>








---also u can say a lot of du'aa,always start it and end it with salat on the prophet and when u say ur du'aa finish it with du'aa yunus





';LAa ilaha illa Anta, Subhanaka innee kuntu min az-zaalimeen.';





and in the end say ';Alhamdulillah rabbil alameen';





---now back to ur parents u said that ur aunt go to college to ,so why not go to that same col ledge ,tell ur parents that u wont be alone,u'll have ur aunt with u,or tell them that they raised u really well,and u'll never do anything wrong or something that could dishonor the family,ask them how come ur aunt can go and u not





---as an advice be firm but polite,prepare ur arguments and answers for their Q's





tc salam
I tell you a fact. Guys only ask your hand because they believe you to be easy, gullable and average looking if not unattractive.





Guys will never ask a girl's hand if the find her attractive and are shy to them girls.





Guys are not shy to you and believe you will say yes back whereas to pretty slim tall light skinned intelligent girls guys always respect them and wud never chat to them so easily. They believe them girls are already spoken for or are too shy to approach them.





Guys only approach girls who they look at and think she is average and will talk back and say yes, guys aint shy to average girls. Trust me.





Am a part-time Model, slim tall and green eyes and guys are always shy to me, no guy approcahes me as they think am too good for them, same with all girls who are intelligent and pretty.





No way wud a guy approcahe a attractive respectable girl at 17 unless he is desperate and wants any average looking girl such as yourself. Am only speaking the truth here and saying how it is.





So just because guys approach u doesnt mean they find u attractive, infact opposite, them guys know they cant get attractive slim tall fair pretty girls so go for any girls, average or unattractive, the guys who approcah you are unattractive and look at u and believe your very simple, gullable and easy, which infact is direspecful.





Guys who truly find girls attractive will never ask for a girl's hand so easily or at 17. Guys respect them girls and them girls always have a long happy sucessfull life.





Am sorry but to get married now must be desperation and desperation equals weak and weaks equals jelous. Only the strong edcuated respectable Muslim girls will not get married so easily and always marry later while their career and life is good. Mashallah. I think your just wanting attention and feeling good abt it but sorry to disspoint u its desperate weak attention but desperate hungary boys who cant get intelligent slim attractive girls.





Peace!.