i am going to give you some real answers from a man married a long time now.
Sex is important yes i cannot deny that, keep it interesting stay away from same thing over and over.
but more importaantly to me.
respect him! show him you love him, you may not agree with everything he does but show him you care reagardless. be honest with him. dont nag, just ask nicely request nicely etc... be there for him if he's down.For married men: What is the secret to a happy marriage from a man's perspective? Any advice for a new bride?
Well, it's import to show your man a sense of need. Even if you are independent most men like to feel needed. It is also good for you to initiate telling him that you love him, instead of him always having to show you affection first. Sex is definitely another thing. Men like it, they love it, and want some more of it. Just like the country song. LOL.
Respect/honesty
communication
lot's of sex
I know lot's of sex is going to appear in most answers but from a married man who had a really great sex life and all of a sudden it disappeared like a fart in the wind. That has put more stress on my marriage then any thing else..when we had the active sex life we never argued now that it is a thing of the past we are always at each others throats It is very hard on the marriage! All the best!
Nothing about this will be any different on August 1st than on July 30th. The fact that you're getting married doesn't change how you should treat each other in the relationship. Be honest and be kind - treat each other as you expect to be treated yourselves. Expect that there will be more tough times ahead, and more happiness.
I am not a man, but please read the book the proper care and feeding of husbands as well as the proper care and feeding of a marriage.
Another great book is For Women Only - what you need to know about the inner lives of men by Shaunti Feldhanh....The above books were recommended to me by men to read. It is a real eye opener.
Men need pretty much two things.
1. An active willing sexual partner
2. Someone who respects him and showers him with affirmation
Keep the same body (not including pregnancy, of course) that you have when you get married. Keep the communication lines open, but also realize that men don't want to hear every single thought that goes through your head--that's what girlfriends are for. :)
in order of effect on the man's happiness:
1. sex
2. sex
3. sex
for bonus points, add:
1. don't nag or complain
2. keep the house in order
3. keep your butt in great shape
things we take for granted that could be a problem if you don't:
1. spend wisely
2. don't fool around with our friends
3. have some fun friends of your own gender
don't keep little problems inside and let them fester. be open and honest AT ALL TIMES. don't be quick to judge a situation until you have heard all the facts.
Give him plenty of sex, never nag him, never get bored, never get angry and never, ever ask him to change ANYTHING.
A man needs to know that his wife loves him, supports him in affirmation, loyalty and of course the cookies.
Good God, I agree sex is important but most of these men only seem to want a whore in the bedroom......geez........a woman is MORE than a walking vagina....just thought I'd be the one to mention that........
respect your husband and he'll give u the endless love you need. try the book love and respect
SEX, compromise, dinner ready, an always tend to his needs first make sure he's happy
Simple answer: Don't have an expectation that he changes.
Lots of intercourse.
oral. you're gonna have to go downtown and at least pretend to like it.
Make sure his needs are met, and make sure you are having fun with him. By that I mean, everyone needs basically the same things, food, water, and sex. So make sure you are keeping up your end of things (I'm not saying you have to fulfill the traditional roles).
Also, by fun, I don't just mean sexually, but do things you both enjoy, or give and take, if he enjoys a certain band that you don't, at least make the effort to enjoy it with him. And he should do the same for you. It is a give and take.
Remember what the Bible says, forsake all others, He is now your number one, Be respectful of his feelings, Dont hang out with your friends to much, make sure to include him in all your decisions. After my 20 years with my wife, I can definitely say sex is not the answer to a happy marriage, It is very important to plan things together, Heres a good plan. Take one day each weekend and plan a date, just the two of you , you take one weekend , he gets the other. You will be surprised what life this puts and keeps in a marriage. And most importantly find a good church,never forsake GOD, after all He gave everything for both of you.
Everyone will tell you MORE SEX... Agree, but, try giving him something new now and then to keep him dying to see what you do next. Lots of sex and it being the same old same old will get old after a while..
Try anything he asks you to try. If you dont he will go find it elsewhere. Maybe not right away, but he will always want what he can have. We all do. Give it all to him, he will haveno reason to ever look elsewhere.
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Men will be very comfortable if you turn into his mother but if this happens, you will lose the relationship. Therefore, try not to become his mother. Don't complain and nag about doing things he doesn't like to do. Then when he doesn't do these things, you become angry, bitter, and eventually withhold sex. Instead, accept the differences. Don't talk to him like he's a woman. He doesn't want to sit on bed in his pyjamas and his hair in curlers to talk about his problems. Instead, learn to speak his language and detect his moods.
Men need few things: attention, sex, and food. The attention's focus is on his manliness and how he's such a good father, male role-model, provider for the family, and protector. Be sexy and cute. Randomly, kiss him on the cheek or nibble his ear while he's watching tv or working on the car. Do all of this even when you disagree and it kills you.
Women have all the power in a relationship if they do this but many are reluctant to do it because they've been taught that when a man acts like a man then her concerns come last. But the reality is, when a man acts like a man, your husband will respond to your actions by providing for your needs first. Create this dynamic relationship by initiating it.
Be the wife you'd want to be when if you were him. And most importantly, read Dr. Laura's book, ';Proper care and feeding of husbands';.
Congrats on your upcoming wedding:)
I am a woman but just thought I would give you some advice that helped me too-
don't sweat the small stuff and choose your battles-is it really worth fighting over something so small? I have to check myself sometimes before I get mad about something. Ask yourself if it is worth it to fight about.
Greet him every day with a kiss and never leave without a kiss good bye.
Don't go to bed mad!
Remember that men need that boost once in a while so continue to ';boost his ego'; and make him feel good about himself. Also, when he does help with chores and things make it known that you appreciate it.
And of course, the best for last:) Keep the sex life fun!
Be spontaneous and don't be afraid to initiate!
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