Any advice for my marriage?

I met my husband online 3 years ago and we were married in a year and two months. I had always had bad luck with guys and was always hurt by the guys I truly wanted. I thought my husband was the most amazing guy in the world. I knew we had different interests but I didn't care because I saw him as honest, caring, hard working, smart, funny, reliable, and smoking hot. About a year ago (in November) we were at a wedding and I noticed him say something to some people at our table that kind of didn't make sense. Ever since then I've noticed it more and more. He has clear misconceptions about knowledge that is considered common knowledge or basic facts and sometimes he says things out in left field (like comments that don't fit with the conversation) or corny jokes that aren;t funny. I never noticed him doing these things for two years. He also has a hard time accurately explaining the way something happened or remembering things that to me are sooo easy to remember.





All of these problems make me doubt his ability to be successful and they take away my faith and confidence in him as well as my attraction to him. He is very sweet, my family loves him, he works hard and always takes care of his responsibilities. He is supportive of me and loves me very much. I never noticed any of these things for two years and now I just feel like it is getting worse everyday. I'm afraid of social situations because of what he might say, but no one ever (except one friend) has ever said anything bad about his personality (however my friends and family haven't been around him that much). He is neat and clean, doesn't break a promise to me, helps me with housework and would go out of his way for me in a heartbeat.





I also feel upset because I am a deep, philosophical, imaginative person and he is more take things with a grain of salt and let them roll off your back. Sometimes I find myself getting stuck when I try to get deep with him about religion, politics, philosophy, etc. He also sometimes finds things confusing that are so simple to me.





As I said, I never noticed any of this for two years. I know it was the honeymoon stage but I don't think I could miss someone being confused and making irrelevant comments. We go to therapy and I suggested that he get a psychological evaluation but the therapist doesn't think it is necessary. If anything he thinks I should go on OCD meds. Everyday I am more and more upset about this. I want to kill myself but I would never do that. I dream about being in a happier relationship and if I could I would fix things so I didn't feel so distant, detatched, and displeased. I don't know what to do...





Any adviceAny advice for my marriage?
Wow he seems like a really great guy and you are lucky to have him. Your issue here is that you now see some of his distasteful qualities and it's freaking you out because you thought he was perfect and now... woah he's not! His social behavior CAN be fixed you just need to communicate to him that he needs to think before he speaks and start reading some books to learn how to come off more professional. Tell him you are concerned how others perceive him and want him to be successful in life and that it's very important to learn this skill. Then ask him something YOU can improve on but genuinely ask him and do not take offense. Remember that you can learn and grow together as long as you communicate your needs and wants, dislikes AND likes. How he comes off in a social setting seems nothing in comparison to the good qualities you mentioned. Work togetherAny advice for my marriage?
i really dont see a problem with him. im sorry but i just dont. he seems like a great guy...but you? you on the otherhand seem very picky all of a sudden if you didnt think anything like this 2 years ago. are you sure hes the confused one? apparently the therapist doesnt think so. just cus you remember something easier then him..dont make him weird or something. all ppl remember differently. you are supposed to love him with all his faults if not then why the hell you marry him? quit acting like this and be thankful you got a great guy
I feel for you, honestly. It sounds like he has a mental problem, he may not be aware of it. Something sounds real wrong. Put it to him easily, tell him he need to be checked or it may be time to move on. From what you wrote it is slowly getting worse, so please be careful. And change physiologists the one you are seeing needs to open their eyes. I hope you have a friend you can talk to, at a time like this you need one. I hope the best for you, no matter what it may be.
You are acting foolish and selfish. Obviously, for 2 years, things were fine. Now all of a sudden you are acting as if you are better than he is. If he really is all that you say he is, you should thank your lucky stars. Many women would love to have a kind, considerate, hard working man like yours. You are acting very immature and totally ridiculous. Love the man for what he is. You have faults too!!! Quit listening to your so called friends. They do not have to live your life. You do. If this man makes you happy in evey other way, you have all you can ask for. No one is perfect!!!