Christian advice for struggling marriage?

Have been married almost 8 years. We are both Christians. There are so many issues i don't know where to begin. First off, I've seen many inappropriate correspondence between my husband and other women. When confronted, he turned it on me, saying I should not be looking at his email and 'in his business'. ( I didn't know it was off limits; I have nothing to hide so I have no problem if he looked at mine). When I went to our pastor about this, my husband said I betrayed him by 'going behind his back'. Another issue is that I had post partum depression and it really hurt us, and I know he's not over it. It was a horrible time for me and I was not myself. He refuses counseling and hasn't been to church for a long time either. He says he needs to work, although I know it's just an excuse. He's not happy with our pastor for whatever reasons. We are so disconnected and I'm so unbearably unhappy all i think about is how to escape. I had prayed heavily for awhile but now i'm just weary. Help!Christian advice for struggling marriage?
Hi... I'm sorry to hear about your situation.... Since there are so many issues and you sound very unhappy, perhaps a good marriage counselor would be able to help you sort out these issues and help you approach them and your family in a more constructive manner.... I found what seems to be a very good pro-marriage site on the web. Check out http://www.divorcebusting.com/.





I wish you and your family well.Christian advice for struggling marriage?
feeling you have be quite normal. But, looked to the wrong place of the Pastor. they can give appropriate answers. If the there are problems with the husband and another women, the maybe something going on there that you may not know the full story. Only the two of them can answer honestly. But, not right for you to be in the position that you are in neither.
the Christian answer would be he's falling from grace. for what ever reason he needs to get back in church, and marriage counseling if you can get him to go. everybody comes back sooner or later, unfortunately for some it's to late to repair the damage they have done to the marriage. good luck and may God be with you!
It's great that you two have been married for 8 years already. Me and my hubby are just 5 months into our marriage. Although I am a Christian(not baptised yet, just a believer), and my hubby is a free-thinker, I have never really forced him to go church with me (occasionally I do go church with my mum at New Creation Church In Singapore). With regards to religious freedom, you should give him some space.


But if he was unfaithful to you in any way, you really should confront him. Good luck to you.
keep praying...you can give up on you ..your husband and even your marriage...but don't give up on God...stay in prayer...God sees all hears all and is with you while you go thru...hang in there...God knows how all of this will end and He said He will not give you more than you can bear...He obviously felt you can handle what has transpired thus far...Be strong in the Lord and in the Power of His might
Your marriage is not struggling, it is over. Want to know why I am saying this? Because (a) your husband is cheating on you and (b) he has no interest in making things better. So you have two choices now: You can get divorced so you can stop suffering in a loveless marriage, or you can continue to suffer and waste your life. Yeah, yeah, I know, you're Christian and you're supposed to tough it out. Divorce is the big no-no. But consider this: Why would God want you miserable?
Sometimes it's best to turn to a professional counselor. It's private and personal. Try that. If your husband won't go, may be time for a divorce. Your husband is making you miserable, and is uncooperative.
A christian answer will not help you . Only make you worse. Your paster has no qualification on marriage problems. Get some real help.
Well, first of all, he is not a Christian anymore...


Bible and church will not help you. Get some real help.
You two can make it through this. When my wife did not like our pastor we moved...this way she could not make any excuses...shoot me a line via answers.
There is no option available to BOTH of you if he refuses to participate, and it looks like he is not interested in working on things. If he won't work as a team, you need to work on YOU. If he is not your partner, on your side, supporting you, etc. you need to look out for yourself. Find some place to go, be firm, and start your own life on your own. You can sit down with him and calmly tell him that if he refuses to work as a team on this, you will leave and find a life that satisfies you away from him. Then do it. Life is too short, and you are wasting time sitting by someone that is sending you a clear message in every means he can except direct words. Good luck.
Because of your faith in God, you will be tested. Remain firm in your belief even if you have to look for earthly counseling. Remember that the Almighty God is bigger than the mountain that you face. I understand the trials of your life but I will not advice you for a divorce. I believe in winning over the enemy which will be your testimony. You had prayed heavily for awhile but the devil is patient and waiting for you to stop. Pray without ceasing, short prayers all through the day are heard from God. I consider that a prayer meeting at your house to be a good idea. I will remember you in my prayer.
Look in my opinion.... Religion, has no concept in cheating... they/ MEN or Woman... forget the Religion when it comes to sex, drugs and alcohol... they become human and react to whats in front of them.
As a Christian Counselor myself,


your husband is not behaving in a Christian manor.


The bible says as aman does in his mind so he does in his heart, a sin commited in mind is still a sin.


Most Christian counselors work on a sliding scale, for little or no fee. ask you pastor to recomend some one or have your husband pick a impartial minister.


But you both do need counseling.


the reason he isnt willing is probably because he knows hes wrong and knows he has sinned. He doesnt want anyone else to know or judge him by that.
Ask him what he thinks about switching churches. Maybe he would consider going if he can choose which church he would perfer. As far as the other women he is corespounding with you'll have to put your foot down on that one. Yes I know it may cause a fight, but standing your ground is what sometimes has to be done. Then pray again. Pray that God will renew your marriage and reveal any truths that should be known. Then this sounds hard and is-Let it go. If your husband is a born again Christian God is able and will work on his heart. Things may even seem worse then they where before at first, because this is the first sighn of conviction, but if you even let your husband go in God's hands, it will be a burden lifted. If your husband isn't a Christian then your headed in for a long hard path I'm sorry to say and the only thing you can do is pray for salvation. Try to make peace with him in your own way. Try saying something like ';I know that I have had my ups and downs and how hard it was for you when I was down, but I'm willing to turn over a new leaf and start over for the good. Please forgive me.'; Then try to keep peace in the family by not drudging up anything from the past. Hopefully you can make bigons be bigons. The two of you.
Going to church is not going to fix th problems in your marriage.


If you are both Christians then you already have the lessons that have been taught to you by going to church and reading th gospel etc. If you can't apply those lessons when it counts, then your faith is not very strong and church has been more of a social function than a life lesson.


You guys need to go and see a real counselor. You don't go to a counselor to hear a sermon right? Then don't go to a pastor for marriage issues.