I'm saving my first kiss for marriage...I know it sounds crazy, but kissing is very special to me. I'm worried about my first kissing being in front of a crowd of people at my wedding. I'm worried the kiss will be awkward since it will be my first kiss. It'd be embarrassing even if it wasn't awkward, just since kissing will not be comfortable yet. Should I save the kiss for after the wedding? But then everyone will ask me why, and my family doesn't know about the kissing thing. If we do kiss at the wedding, should I announce that it's our first kiss? I would like to announce it since I'm proud of it, but I'm afraid I'd be super embarrassed if people knew it was the first kiss and worried people would think I was bragging or making it seem like I was better than anyone else. Does anyone have any advice? By the way, kissing before the wedding is not an option since saving the kiss is very important to me.I'm saving my first kiss for marriage...advice please?
omg, are you serious?I'm saving my first kiss for marriage...advice please?
if all of what you said is true.. then WOW, i am really amazed and pleased, thas really nice.
The only way you're going to find a guy that will not kiss you until the wedding is if your family arranges a wedding for you with a distant cousin, usually much older than you, and you live in a third world country.
I don't think this is the case tho. You need to relax about the kissing thing. You want to marry a guy without first kissing him? Marriage is a life-long commitment. I bet you don't even buy an outfit without first trying it on. You certainly won't ever buy a car without test-driving it! What if the guy is a horrible kisser?? You're stuck with that for life! You may never know what a good kiss is!
You should talk to your parents about this...I'm sure they will urge you to not kiss everybody, but even they kissed before they were married, and they also each had boyfriends/girlfriends that they each kissed. That's how they knew they were right for each other.
why dont you just live life to the fullest ? you shouldnt wait.
not having sex until marriage, is understandable, but no kissing of any sort until marriage is unterly rediculous.
it may sound mean, but it's the 21st century.
Wow. that's just weird. Sex, understandable. KISSING?? Um, yeah, good look with that.
Talk about the epitome of awkward.
EDIT: just read the details. man, you people are weird. How do you even consider yourselves dating???
I wanna know how old you are....because honestly, that just simply cannot happen. Sex? Yes, you can wait till marriage...but kissing someone? How are you going to find a guy that is going to court you long enough to marry you without even kissing them? Seems a bit ridiculous.
Wow...
You're gunna have to find a guy who likes you a lot if you won't be kissing him until marriage.
But hey, it's good you're holding onto it.
I think when you do get married, just kiss him and don't announce it. It can be between you two :)
How can you not kiss someone. I am 13 and I couldnt even do that. Good luck with that........your going to need it.
Jessica, their is no moral reason to keep your first kiss for after your married. I strongly advise you to speak to your paster or his wife about this.
3 years without kissing? I'd advise you and your guy friend to get per marital counseling.
I respect your opinion, but I think that saving your first kiss until marriage is a little extreme.
good thinking there...i'm not even going to talk to a guy till i'm married....no scrap that... i'm not going to look at a guy till i'm married...
Well, this is obviously pretty important to you, so....
I suggest you not announce it, since it is such a personal matter, and don't worry about it--kissing comes naturally.
I will take $100 bucks on the fact you are not going to save your first kiss for your wedding service.
When you grow up and meet the man of your dreams you will know why I can say that with all confidence.
My only advice is continue to be a good kid and study hard.
Well if you want I guess you guys could hug after you are pronounced man and wife, and then save the kiss for the honeymoon? But I don't know, I've never heard of saving your first kiss. Also, you prob won't find a guy that hasn't even kissed someone else before you, is that important to you too? A fellow kiss-virgin?
I don't think I would announce that it is your first kiss when you get married. Most people are going to think it is odd, and to be honest, I think you are going to have a hard time finding a guy that is willing to not kiss you until you get married. If you don't want to kiss though, then don't do it. I don't think you should worry about the kiss being awkward when you get married, it isn't like you are going to be full on making out (at least most people wouldn't be).
This sounds really important to you that you save your first kiss for your wedding. Does your boyfriend respect this wish? I don't know about him but I don't think I'd be able to stand the torment and the torture. Babe,If you were my girlfriend,I'd be having night sweats and I'd be getting jittery not even after a week. I'm sorry if I am making you blush. Is there a chance I could just suggest one thing? Please,please,please,Do not tease. Oh my goodness. I don't think there is a man alive that would be able to survive such torture. I respect your wishes and beliefs. Now I hope that there is someone whose will is strong will respect your wishes and make you the happiest bride. Stick to your guns and beliefs. Hon,I just wish your boyfriend the best of luck. He is going to feel some major torment and torture. You are some hot stuff. Gotta split,My dear. Have a goodnight and god bless. Bye now.
i bet you're going to kiss before than. i can understand sex, and maybe no passionate kissing but . . .
idk.
if by kiss you mean sex then ok cool.
but if by kiss you mean kiss, that is a little weird..
i think kisses are harmless :)
okay, well, i guess you've made up your mind, and kudos to you for not compromising your personal beliefs. I guess people will just have to accept that. And if you're first kiss is on your wedding day and really awkward, i guess it is what it is.
hey dear, If your truly worried about saving your first kiss your probably to young to think about a wedding.. Kissing is part of growing up..One usually does feel awkward on ones first kiss that's why God gave us all these opportunities to practice.. If you really want to be proud of saving something concentrate on the sexual side of life..
i would keep it a confidential thing, between you and your husband. it'd be more sentimental and like you said people won't think you think youre better than tem that way. your husband would understand. why not have your first kiss at your wedding? your husband will know and be supportive, he'd help out so embarrassing yourself won't be an issue. plus it'd be a hell of a first kiss. good luck.
just go read some articles about how to kiss or something and im sure you''ll do fine
I don't even know how to respond to this...what if you don't feel anything when you kiss? One of the reasons that I know my boyfriend is the one for me if because of how I feel when we kiss. It's so intense...the first time we kissed, I felt kind of dizzy. What if we had never kissed? We'd still love eachother but our relationship wouldn't be as special. I'd seriously reconsider your ';no kiss'; thing. What about kissing after he proposes? Then you'd have time to back out if the kiss wasn't good.
Tell everyone on here to hush up.
I'm in my twenties. I had the same attitude, no touching, no kissing, no s-x, until marriage. Now, I'm married.
I know plenty of people that did not even touch or kiss until marriage.
Do not worry. You VALUE YOURSELF. Keep VALUEING yourself. Do not listen to others.
You are special. A real MAN with self respect, and that loves you, will respect it. Not to mention that YES, there are men out there that believe the same way.
You should check out a lot and read up on Jewish dating, and on fundamental dating. It is a lot like what you mention.
HOWEVER, you will even find non-religious people that believe this way as well.
Congrats to you. Lets one decent, morally person, change our trashy American culture one person at a time.
Check out these sites, they might encourage you, and pay no attention to the yahoo trash, and scum on here.
http://www.libertygospeltracts.com/biblecrs/marriage/mariage1.htm
Scroll down the page and read what he says on marriage: http://www.libertygospeltracts.com/biblecrs/biblecrs.htm
Go to this site: http://jtf.org/forum_english/index.php?PHPSESSID=e8226a260a99ce134b9daa2963df80d8%26amp;board=19.0
Thanks for being a REAL woman, and for having guts to set decent noteworthy goals. In this world all we truly own is our self respect and integrity. We are the only ones that CHOOSE to give that up. Keep valuing yourself. Forget people. Real leaders are not followers.
if u dont' want to be embarrassed u should not save it for ur marriage so u can experiences.but if u realy really want to save it for marriage and don't want to be embarrassed then maybe u should watch movies where they have kissing scene so u can learn from it
if he loves you enough to wait that long to kiss you, then i say why not just kiss, and tell everyone. that just shows how amazing your relationship together is. it also shows that that guy reallllllyyyy likes you for who you are. its really nothing to be embarrassed about. its not weird like everyone says it is. I wouldn't do it, but it isn't weird. Your just saving yourself completely for the right guy =)
Um, part of finding that special someone and knowing that they are the right person to marry is by kissing them. If you're not going to kiss someone, your relationship is going to go nowhere because no one wants to date someone for that long and not kiss them. Its a vital part of the pre-marriage relationship!
Honey you both need to speak to your paster about this, maybe get some premarital counseling. I'm just wondering why you posted this to YA.
The wedding kiss (now you may kiss the bride) is just a peck on the lips so I don't understand your problem.
BTW: I wonder if your both sexually inhibited. A non-make out Kiss isn't a sin. It's just a form of greating or farewell, like shaking hands.
THeres a very slim chance u'll find a guy who wants to do that...Its possible tho...but very hard.
So how old r u? N do u currently have a boyfriend? Well if the answers r old enough n yes. U must be crazy u can wait for sex but kissing. Ur definitely watching to much movies. Remember u have to kiss the toad to find out if he's a prince or not. So basically u need to talk n kiss guys till u find the perfect one that is worth it.
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