Any advice for saving/ending a short marriage?

Been with my man for 6years, married for 3. I'm still in my 20's and kind of having a crisis. I feel like he is not the man for me, for life, but the marriage itself isn't that bad and it could work. BUT, I don't think he's the man for me and I'm not sure if I should make it work or let him find happiness with a woman who he truly deserves(which HE thinks is me).





I'm anxious about things like having kids with him because I don't think he's the type of father I want for them. He won't stop smoking pot or cigarettes. He told me that we don't have to have kids, as much as he really loves them.





I want to travel alone and live out of a suitcase, he wants to build a home and be a good family man. He needs a woman who will lovingly prepare daily meals and tidy up his clothes, but I can't play a mother.





As attractive as he is, I'm not turned on by him anymore. It's only been 6 years. How can I last another five??





I'm afraid that he will not ';give up'; on me, and somehow try to make the marriage work. What realy matters in a partnership like this in prder to make it wokr?





We don't have kids or assets(except a car), just a few grand in loans.


He supports me in whatever interests me and is always kind and loving. But I'm afraid he is not the man I can be married to FOREVER, although I'm not certain of that because the marriage is still fine.





What should I do??Any advice for saving/ending a short marriage?
If you don't love him now you will never love him. It will just get worse over time. Do not have kids! It will just make things worse and then when you leave it will be a million times harder and more complicated. Tell him you are sorry to feel this way but you just have to be honest. You are still very young and have your whole life ahead of you. You should be spending it with someone you are crazy in love with, because this is also very unfair to him. I'm sure he does not want to be with a woman who does not love him.Any advice for saving/ending a short marriage?
well you said ';he isnt the man for me'; repeatedly...........so you have your answer........just each of you go your seperate ways.......and maybe remain friends......if not.......then at least you each may find someone who is more of what you want for a lifelong partner.
Go to counseling (a neutral place) and explain how you feel in front of him. I don't think you should go on anymore and make two lives miserable because that is what will be happening in short order.
you definitly didnt have to ask this question, looks like you already have your answers and just looking for people to validate them!
Divorce him. Well, yeah, you know how it is. You get married, then you get a divorce. The world keeps spinning!
I would suggest you leave him. I would also suggest that you do it quickly while you can still find a young man. Older men are going to see through you rather quickly and probably will have little to do with you (unless they are lonely for the evening.) Remember, you will have to explain that you left a good husband because ';he wasn't the man for you.'; You are still a youngster at heart looking for some excitement. At your age there are still a few ';Billy BadAss';s out there that you can try to change by shaking your ';booty';. They grow up to be irresponsible men but they are exciting when they are young. Be aware, that as you get older the tables turn. Decent men become harder and harder to find. The ones that are available become quite particular in who they chose. I see many lonely 50 and 60 year old women who at one time thought they were too good for their husbands. Have fun while it lasts.
This really is entirely down to how you feel. Although don't you think it's a little bit late to be having doubts about the marriage now?





Perhaps you both need to sit down and see if there is a way you can both have what you desire, perhaps he will go travelling with you for a few years then you can settle down (chances are by then you should be ready to settle). Also he may of grown up by then and given up the smoking.





You need to find a way to rekindle the romance so you start to find him attractive again.
Sounds to me that you don't take commitment very seriously. You've said yourself that things are actually pretty good between you. If you have desires, such as living out of a suitcase, share them with him. You guys are young and don't have kids to anchor you in one place. He may enjoy traveling around with you, then once you've gotten that out of your system the two of you would still be together and happier than before. You took vows, honor them. If you are not happy w/ certain aspects of your marriage then address them with the man that loves you.


If you find someone that you can love, don't screw that up over some strange impulse.