Need Christian advice for marriage problems!?

I don't know what to do. My husband and I have been married for about 2 years now and my sexual drive is completely lacking! I don't know why and it has nothing to do with him. I'm not thinking about anyone else nor am I doing anything wrong. I've prayed about this issue and its making problems in our marriage with sexuality. What should I do?Need Christian advice for marriage problems!?
It could be changes in your hormones. Have yourself checked out by your doctor and share this problem with your husband. You can even bring your husband with you so you can seek out help for this together. This will keep you both strong as long as the both of you are handling it as a couple and not keeping the problem to yourself.. i will pray for you.





Father,


I lift up this couple to you for your healing touch to be placed upon this wife. Please help her and allow her to enjoy the pleasures that you intended her and her husband to share with each other. Fill both of their hearts with the peace and contentment that can only come from you. I thank you for a new beginning for the both of these people. In the precious name of Jesus, amenNeed Christian advice for marriage problems!?
get pills to make u have ah drive are try new things in da bedroom
Discuss it with your husband and together try to look for ways on how to solve it by buying books which deals with frigidity, christian books related to marriage and/or consult a doctor ( maybe your ob-gyne) to help you medically ...Pray hard that your husband would be patient and understanding enough to wait until such time that you can engage in sex actively with him again....God Bless!!!!
You are normal. While the world is always talking about ';women's sex drives,'; it is a myth and a woman does not have the same sort of feelings that a man does unless she has become masculine, altered in some way or perhaps has consumed a lot of alcohol. Many men don't want to believe that, but they're not very bright.





For a woman it has mostly to do with having children and accommodating the need of your husband because you love him. If you feel that you don't want to be near him and have sex at all, then it could be another problem, but otherwise what I've sadi is correct.
You are one flesh.





Therefore the rest of your body (your husband) must be let in on the problem.





Simply enough, communicate, talk to each other.





You may find that its not about the actual sex, but about what goes on in your everyday life.





Women need to be romanced, not just with poems, flowers, notes, and dinners out. They need to be romanced by a soft touch that does not lead directly to the bedroom. They need to be romanced by soft spoken words. They need to be romanced by a special deed done just for them, meaning helping with a chore that is yours alone, but he just did it for you without asking or being told.





These things soften a womans heart and prepares her to submit to her husbands desires.





Your husband will not automatically understand these things. He is hardwired, all he needs to do is see you naked, or imagine you naked.





You do not understand how your husband could be aroused with seemingly no romance.





We are different, and we must learn these differenced and accomodate them within our marriages.





I know that even knowing all this stuff, I am still utterly amazed that after an argument or a mean word said between us, my husband can still be ';in the mood'; for sex.





Lastly and most importantly, After you have communicated (talked ) take time out to pray together as a married one flesh couple, for understanding of each others thoughts and minds.
well like how you are a christian you should seek council from your elder in the church or any mature christian there. Maybe you are working too hard in have sex rather than let the moment present itself. Try going out and spending a weekend at a hotel or go to the beach, take time for just the both of you. Do not rush anything ok. Continue preying too.
You don't have to be a christian (as such) to answer this question. You are young and are not used to the rigours of marraige (obviously) and have taken a very serious step in which your decisions affect some-one else life. This can be a scary thing in one so young. Try self meditation and lots of excercise. Pick up your diet and be patient with yourself. Ask your husband for patience also and this to will pass. Don't push yourself or it will get worse. If he is unwilling to wait and help you through this, then his chritianity is out the window. Do not judge yourself or your marraige on this one little hiccup. He will go through it, also at some stage and then how will you handle it? ';Love thyself'; and it will make for a stronger person and better christian.
yeah, wtf? I can't find a decent woman for the life of me and you're complaining about sex drive at 20?
are you on the pill?.... that severly drops your sex drive and is proven to.





does your husband still attract you? (did he gain weight or does he have facial hair you cant stand.... does he smell?) all these things can drop your sex drive.
lily dont be silly, take a week end out only the two of you.


remember old times and fall in love again
Try refocusing your relationship on Jesus, and make sure the reason you are together is to bring glory to His name. Without God, anything is meaningless... Try rebuilding the love that you and your husband obviously have for each other, by actively loving him.





Try reading the 5 Love Languages, as well as spending time in couples small groups with your church.





Read the Bible, Pray, Worship, Obey, and Repent.
Don't feel bad, It's very common. Many women are just not that into sex. It doesn't really change. You are just one of those people.





Hopefully both you and your husband knew this before you got married and he knew what he was signing up for. Religious guys tend to be better at coping with this. Good luck.
Two great sources who deal with issues such as this and both have radio call-in shows, sell books and have a Christian-like perspective.





www.drlaura.com


www.fhu.com





Dr Laura would ask you how long you expect to keep that job if you're not doing it, and remind you how delicious it used to be.





Roy Masters would home in on resentment, either toward husband, situation, or childhood.





I suspect Dr Laura would perscribe jumping husband as he comes in the door every day for a week. Roy would offer a free mental exercise which has a homeopathic effect of bringing to the surface past wrong reactions to stress so you can see them in a new light and then they're gone and you are whole.





I suppose you have considered that probably your husband is being destroyed by your emotional problems? Us guys take these things very seriously.
Sounds more like a medical problem - either physical or psychological and it's not uncommon, so don't stress over it. Hormones can fluctuate and put things out of balance.





Also, as Christians, make sure the soul is fully on Christ and filled with Christ and thank him for the relationship he has given you together, we don't often thank Christ for the sexual relationship we have, but we should, and as you continue to long after the filling of Christ in your soul it will push out the things that are hindering the needs that are seemingly unmet in the marriage.





Also, www.family.org has great resources for these very issues and is worth checking into, and if you can't afford the resources, then when you go to check out put a 0 in the donation or total line, and you'll still receive the materials.





Better to have the open communication and solve the problem now than to continue to let it build.
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a woman not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. My dear, you and your husband must turn that fire again, but he has to understand that you married for the long run, you have a long life in from of you and sex is not all in the matrimony. I don't know if hi is loving or romantic. I'm Latin from Puerto Rico and for us to keep our passion we leave love notes on the pillow, called during the day as when we were going out and you still going out, it hasn't change. Some times no sex is good, some times to watch TV without thinking that at the end of the movie or show you have to perform. The love making is not a job nor part of the daily routing. Sit down and talk about your feelings. Be happy and loving as you used to be. Love you and good luck.
Sex counseling/Christian marital counseling and possibly medical intervention i.e. hormones. and pray鈻衡梽鈼忊柡
Someone wrote: ';You dont even know what a sex drive is at 20 ';





Huh?





Anyhow, have you considered consulting a doctor?
Have your Christian brothers and sisters pray for you,dont tell them what It Is just say that It Is personal,I ask God right now that He help you and that your husband love you through these rough times,I pray patience,and true love and that he allow the Lord to come first In his life .





I think that the Lord Is wanting to get a hold on your husband,and he wants your husband to first love the Lord with all his heart,and love you with all his heart,I pray that he pray and trully love God and the rest will follow,In Jesus Name amen





Praise the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding,pray that your husband first have a true relationship with Jesus Christ and then he will be a true Christian husband
You should go to a monastery; and remain there, indefinitely.-





It is written in the Bible: ';The husband and the wife will form a single


body';. I quoted from my memory.


If you no longer can be ';one'; with your husband, you should leave him.


The marriage is not for you. Your husband does not deserve to be


transformed in a ';martyr';.


The only valid reason for marrying with someone is for taking care of


children, together. Without children, the marriage is useless. If the old


Bible says: ';Grow-up and multiply';, and you claim to be a ';christian';,


then why are you transgressing the word of God?





More of that: I think you should go to a doctor. At your age, the lack


of sexuality is not normal.-
Maybe you need more romance, maybe dietary supplements would help. I'm in my 40s and my own drive was lacking but I take certain minerals now (I'd tell you, but they're for males), and it's come back. They took about 8 weeks to kick in. Maybe there is something equivalent for women. Might check with GNC.
okay, this may not be the ';christian'; advice you want, but hear goes.





ask yourself these questions, are you on birth control (it is known to decrease sexual drive) have you gained any weight, (not being comfortable with yourself can cause you to lose your sex drive) what about your diet? are you eating plenty of healthy foods? you'd be so surprised on the amount of bad foods that block your sex drive. and last of all, go see your doctor. sometimes your body is lacking a natural hormone that increases sexual drive. Be open about it. and talk with your husband. never block him out. he's there to help you.
well, you need to (and he needs to) realize that he married you cause he loves you, with or without sex, right?.





You could see a counselor/psychologist and see if they can come up with any reason. .





Also, I think that you should participate in your wifely duties even if you don't have the desire (at least occasionally), since that's part of what is expected in marriage. At some point soon, perhaps you can figure out why you have a lack of desire and it will all be good. . .
can I say this





first marriage problem





your 20 and your married. You dont even know what a sex drive is at 20 much less what you will or wont do eventually. Then you will trun 26 and everything will change this is why i want to undersatnd I would never do a woman so young that way. Tie her down give her a kid at 20 thats just wrong





my opinion
There is actually a pill you can find in the Health Food store that can help with this problem. Also watch your diet, some foods cause you to feel ugh. if you know what I mean.
why do you need christian advice. that kind of stuff happens to people all the time. if you had a kid, its typical for a woman to lose their sex drive. theres drugs and therapy for it. I hate to tell you, but if you leave it to religion, you are probably gonna end up in a divorce. science works, no matter what some people like to believe.
First you should take a list of any and all meds, herbs and what you eat on a daily basis to your OB/GYN. He/she can look at what goes into your body bcuz most of the time a lack of sex drive is from something like that. also many chronic diseases cause lack of sexual desires and so it really starts at your OB/GYN or regular MD.