All I can suggest if you haven't already done is be wise enough to get premarital counseling because if you don't believe me you will need it more later on and he won't be so willing after the ';I Do's'; I would advise you to wait but regardless how old you are if you are willing to LISTEN to wise advice then you have just as much chance at having a long and properous marriage as anyone. Just be sure that you and he are the kind of peple that are humble enough to learn from mistakes and willing to find answers to problems commit to lean on love enough to be patient with each other through those problems...You should make it! I truly wish you well sweetie.Advice for Marriage?
baby what are you doing??? marrying at 19?? finish school and live life before you tie yourself down. your man will understand and both of you will be better off...
geez if i was 19 again...don't do it baby girl.
one word COMMUNICATION
Just some facts for you.
85% of marriages of people between the ages of 18-25 end in divorce. If I were you, Id wait to get married.
in my opinion you are getting married way to young, you haven't experienced life yet
Congratulations on getting married. My wife and I just celebrated our 25th anniversary. The best advise I can give you is from a mans point of view. Get the proper care %26amp; feeding of husbands book by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. That is the best book ever written on marrage. i think it's so important that women understand that us men are different in every way and dr Laura explains it perfectly.
Wishing you the best.
Keep the lines of communication open, and NEVER go to bed angry.
Total and complete honesty, all the time. Every time. Even if the truth hurts or neither of you really wants to know.
Here's why:
You are human. You are, by definition, imperfect. Nobody is perfect, which means that both of you will, in fact, screw up from time to time. That's just life.
So understand as you bare your soul to the one person you promised your life to that he might be hurt or angry at you, but will respect your honesty. It goes both ways, too! If you find out about something you don't like, your husband should be honest with you as well. Just remember to assume good intentions; that he didn't really intend to upset you.
Your husband should be the one person on the plane that knows absolutely everything about you and is willing to share everything about himself with you. Love and trust each other.
always be willing to listen to each other
never go to bed mad, never walk out on an arguement..marriage is hard and both people need to work at it...for life!!!! be honest and respectful..treat your husband to be the way you want him to treat you..never do anything that you wouldnt want him to see or that you wouldnt want him to do...
above all communicate and work together...100%
Remember that marriage is not always roses and it's the hard times that can either make or break you.
If you let your struggles bring you and your husband closer together, you will have a stronger marriage in the long run.
Don't compare your marriage to the love stories you see on tv or else you will always feel cheated. I don't even watch those movies. It gives people unreal perceptions of relationships.
If your spouse has bad habits that start to drive you crazy, remember he/she is only a human and that you yourself aren't perfect and have some faults your spouse is having to put up with.
Always remember to let your husband/wife know you love and respect them for who they are and tell them often how blessed your life is to have them in it.
I've been happily together with my husband for almost 8 years and it feels like less time.
it`s good, but you both have got to be mature enough to work together or it will just be a fight fest.
Honesty and communication are key!
Even though I think you are too young, I will give you some advice that I had to learn the hard way. Don't run to your Mother or friends every time you and your husband have an argument or disagreement. We say things to our spouses out of anger and hurt and then we make up and everything is back to normal, BUT if you tell your Mother or close friends about the things you argue over, they can't forgive and forget the way we can. Believe me when someone does something to hurt your child or best friend it takes a long time to get over that... so keep those things between the two of you. My mother is still mad at my husband for something he said to me 4 years ago... it's water under the bridge for me, but not for her..lol So just remember that when ever you pick up the phone to call a friend or your parent after you have had an argument with your husband. Peace.
Allow each other to be wrong once in a while (forgive), allow yourself to express yourself when needed calmly but assertive (let the other know that you have a right to your opinion), allow yourself to apologize when you are wrong (don't be so head strong that you lose your identity to anger), allow yourself to love freely with your heart and smother your partner with as much as they can stand and always say I LOVE YOU even when you are mad...
Just do the best you can and be prepared for both the ups and the downs of married life (there are a lot of downs). Do not have children unless you are ready both emotionally and financially.
Communication Communication I can't say it enough. never go to bed mad. Always say I love you.
Sure, make sure you plan your budget! Also, honesty is important.
It is not always going to be a bed or roses. It won't always be fireworks and fun. There will be times when you think you give 110% and he gives nothing. There will be times when he thinks the same thing. Give it your all, because a good marriage is work, but it is sooo worth it. Always remember why you love this guy the way that you do, and what made you love him. Know that even when it is boring and you think you might rather be single, marriage runs in cycles of fun and blah, and the fun will be back soon and you will be so glad that you stuck it out.
The most important thing is to know BEFORE you marry that this is your very best friend and that you don't want to spend one moment without this person.
My advice is to remember to always laugh together. Try to find humor when times get tough (%26amp; they will). I married at 20 and have been married for 20 years. We started out with nothing - working two jobs and going to school. I had a baby at 24 years old. It is ';easy'; to want to throw in the towel and see that the grass is greener on the other side when the going gets tough, but I urge you to stay and fight for the reason you got married in the first place when that happens. Remember the reason you married and the hope you have for the future.
Good luck and congratulations.
most fights are not worth the time they waste. i've been married for almost 8 years and that is the one thing that has remained - it does not matter who started it... everyday will not be perfect so don't expect it - %26amp; if push comes to shove do you feel safe and protected? money fights will happen but if thats what you got married for it will cost you more at the end ( ie; divorce) and above all personally through the pain of 4 children and the pains of life my husbands smile when he still laughs at my stupid jokes has kept me. *****
to the don't get married now person - i was 22 and he was 22 we knew eachother for a very short time
have you thought that maybe growing up together has been a good thing?!
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