I've found ';Love must be tough'; by Dr. James Dobson. Is that a good book? Last week my husband was looking a porn on the internet and I wanted him to move out immediately. I asked for advice from others, and I took their advice. I didn't leave him. Insead we spent the whole weekend talking about life, love, dreams, and our future plans together.
However I want our marriage to be okay and for us to move on. I'm looking for a way to heal and get pass this on our own. I took the first step and forgave him, now what?I'm looking for marriage advice from a Christian's point of view?
This is a very common problem these days. Men are just naturally obsessed with porn and it's so easily available on the net. Many men are being addicted to it. But it doesn't necesarily mean they aren't attracted to their wives.
Talk it over with him, ask him if he feels he's addicted to it, or just curious about it. Ask him what he's hoping to achieve in looking at it - is he looking for new ideas to try with you, does he need more stimulation, etc. Ask him if he's embarrassed by it, how he would feel if his family, friends, and co-workers knew about it.
Then try to come up with some type of compromise. Forbidding him to look at it, won't work. He'll just try to keep it a secret from you then. Instead agree that he can look at it for a set amount of time per day/week. Maybe suggest that you'd like to sit beside him and join in on looking at it to see what the fascination is. Hopefully he'll be open and honest with you about it.
Good Luck!I'm looking for marriage advice from a Christian's point of view?
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