Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Good marriage advice for the engaged?

What is a GOOD piece of advice you would give to people thinking about getting married?Good marriage advice for the engaged?
Pray together, talk about everything, your spouse is your best friend, Commicate and pray and remember the marriage not with 2 but with 3, God, man and wifeGood marriage advice for the engaged?
I definitely agree with the first person and to add to that, don't talk at eachother, talk to eachother. Never bring up anything from the past. Never allow others to get involved in the marriage, in other words keep your business to yourself, unless there's a baby on the way. Too many people in the relationship causes chaos and arguments b/w the engaged. And lastly, keep the spontaneity and the youthfulness in the marriage.
Take your time. Do not rush into the marriage. If you have problems, work them out NOW. Don't expect marriage to fix things, it just makes it worse. Most importantly, don't get married if there is ANY doubt... wait for the right time... get to know each other (which takes YEARS) and until you are both 100% confident. Make sure you both have the same ideas of what marriage is and what it should be. How you want to live, how you want to raise a family, if you do or don't.... make sure you are on the same page about these things. Good luck and I hope the best for you!!!
I agree with Jordan M, that is the best advice there is. In addition to not going to bed angry, never leave angry either cause that makes it worse, and remember to argue respectfully because somethings that are said in anger can be taken back but most can not! Always always always communicate, with out the communication there is no marriage.
jordan that is very good advice!! do not make rash decisions...if you are mad and you want to walk off and go for a walk, don't go, just sit outside for 5 minutes and then come in and work it out, love him no matter what! and always try to pamper him and he will give back what he gets
Some things I've learned in our first year...





Pick your battles: not everything needs to be argued about. Let the little things go





COMMUNICATE: When you do argue, and you will, dont close up. You both need to talk about it and work it out.





Put yourself in their shoes: Be sure to consider how your spouse feels and what theyre going through. We all handle situations differently and its nice to have someone be empathetic and understanding.





Love: love your spouse freely and with abandon. Tell them often and SHOW them often.





Congratulations and good luck!!
the best advice ever is..........





COMMUNICATION AND LISTEN!!!!





thats it, all you have to do is listen to your spouse and communicate with him/her!!! when arguments happen talk it out, when someone is accusing your spouse of something believe your spouse, if you need something ask for it, ifyou want something say it! your spouse is not a mind reader, talk and say somethign if there si somethign on your mind, if it bothers you say something , dont let it drag on for years.





also, learn the art of surprize, surprise your spouse with flowers, lunches, gifts, letters, anything!!! dont lose the love , keep the sparks flowing!!!


good luck and congrats!!!!
Think of all the things that aren't ';perfect'; in your relationship and come to peace with every single one. Marriage isn't going to fix the negatives - make sure you can live with them and still be happy with this person.
Remember you are becoming a ';team'; so always look after one another and respect each other. Laugh often, have as much fun as possible, and try to always give the person the benefit of the doubt.
Never go to bed angry and always communicate! Your spouse will be your best friend, talk to each other about everything and never in anger.
Um..........DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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